We generally feel triggered by things that challenge our core values. This in turn causes us to have dramatic reactions. In order to alter our responses and come at things more mindfully, we must first identify the triggers.
Start with noticing how you feel in your body and the recurring thoughts you have around situations like traffic, your mother in law, a co-worker, or noises. By silently naming what causes us to become angry or irritated, we are able to begin a conscious shift in how we deal with those moments.
When we create a distance between the actions and the responses, we can better direct the outcomes.
Space (to breathe, think, reframe) allows us to separate ourselves from the triggers and notice how we have options. In recognizing that these are our own challenges, and not caused by the person or thing we are directing our responses at, we feel more in control.
Becoming intentional allows this approach to happen with more frequency and will bring a sense of meaning to difficult scenarios. Today, start identifying repeating patterns of what provokes you, and take back control.