When we drop expectations, we make room for the new. We create an openness to what may happen without being stuck to an outcome. When we are able to mindfully approach our lives in this manner, we are not disappointed. Conversely, we may actually feel greater joy and satisfaction even in the same situations.
When we stop expecting a certain behavior our outcome, we are better able to observe and relate. We start by identifying faulty assumptions. In doing so, we may recognize they are not reasonable and shift how we are thinking. Allowing us to then respond more effectively and see more clearly.
Expectations exist in our own mind, often without the knowledge of the other person. Agreements are explicit verbal commitments by two people on a set of acceptable and unacceptable behaviors. Becoming aware of the difference allows us to identify our non-negotiables, let go of expectations and work on replacing one with the other.
Where can you let go of expectations, create agreements and open up more space for yourself and others?